Anger is an emotion that can erode an individual's quality of life and play havoc with the dynamic in one's most important relationships. In my clinical practice, I see many couples who complain that anger has infected their relationship satisfaction. The roller coaster quality of living with someone who has trouble managing his/her anger can be devastating. At http://www.Cunninghamtherapy.com, Dr. Cunningham works on helping people learn new tools and apply new principles to their relationships that help them lead calmer, more satisfying lives. For example, it is important to be clear about one's bottom line. What will you do and what won't you do for the other person? Consider your "yeses" as carefully as you consider your "no's." If you accommodate and give in again and again, over time, resentment toward your partner may build. Then as normal day-to-day stresses of life accumulate, a person with anger management problems may explode and hurt those he or she loves deeply. A person with anger management problems needs to learn that they can shape their world rather than being at the mercy of outside forces. They need to increase their sense that they can become the CEO of their own life instead of exerting energy upon trying to control others. If you can become aware of triggers that make you say yes when you really want to say no (or conversely, make you say no when you really want to say yes), you will know where you stop and they begin. This simple yet difficult self-management skill can help you curb resentment toward an important other. If you work on managing your own boundaries more carefully, it can help you to control your anger and then become a long distance runner in the art of intimacy. To learn more, visit my web site at http://www.Cunninghamtherapy.com or call me for a complimentary phone consultation at 619 9906203.
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